If you want to meet single available men or women, speed dating provides a great opportunity to chat one-on-one with others who are looking for love and romance.
This is how it works: You will have some time for socializing before the speed dating portion of the event starts, so plan to arrive early, get a drink and give yourself a chance to warm up and meet other participants beforehand.
Once things get rolling, you’re likely to meet eight to fifteen people. You’ll have about five minutes to chat with each one before a timer sounds and the men then move on to chat with the next woman.
You’ll be encouraged to take short notes and indicate whether you want to see each participant again. If there is mutual interest in moving forward, you’ll both be notified.
Success at speed dating relies on your skill at creating a good first impression. Since you can barely get to know anyone in such a short time, give yourself the opportunity to get to a first date, where you can become better acquainted.
The top things that impress others are confidence, friendliness and appearance.
Increase your morale by taking the time to pay attention to your appearance before the event. Investing in good grooming and well fitting clothes will pay off in the long run.
Your smile is your biggest ally, as it increases your attractiveness and gives you a warm and self-assured demeanor. Express your friendliness by demonstrating a genuine interest in everyone you meet.
Refrain from taking inventory of your conversational partners’ assets by asking what they do for a living, what kind of relationship they’re looking for or where they live. Instead, find out what brings them pleasure in their lives.
Ask what they enjoy doing in their spare time, where they plan to vacation or what most interests them. Once you have the answer to one of those questions, ask what inspired them to make that choice. Your positive attitude will go a long way towards creating a fun time for everyone you meet.
Avoid topics that lead to the friend-zone or, worse yet, to the no-way-I-want-to-ever-see-you-again-zone. Resist the temptation to criticize anything about the opposite sex or the event. Avoid talking about any problems such as family, work or personal. Obviously don’t discuss dating, death or sex.
Have a topic in your pocket, such as holiday plans or sports, to use as a conversation-changer in case someone asks a question that makes you feel uncomfortable. Give a short, vague reply and say you’ll elaborate when you know each other better. Then change the subject. Click here for more tips on how to handle awkward speed dating questions.
Speed Dating is most successful if you go in with the expectation that you’re going to have fun and enjoy the opportunity to meet lots of very different people. I suggest that you say yes to seeing someone again if they are remotely interesting—in other words, if you could see yourself spending an hour getting to know that person better sometime in the future.
If you go in expecting to find true love...well, you’re likely to be disappointed. And, it won’t be because your true love isn’t there, but because it’s almost impossible to tell if someone is right for you after a five-minute conversation.
Here are the facts: According to anthropologist, Helen Fisher, who provides studies about love for Match.com and the Kinsey Institute studies, only five percent of all marriages start out as love at first sight. So, expecting that you will know if someone is a potential mate when you first meet is like expecting that you will make money on a stock that only has a five percent chance of a return.
And, despite rumors that people—especially men—will only fall in love with someone who is their physical type, it turns out that 33 percent of men and 43 percent of women answered yes when asked if they had ever fallen in love with someone they did not initially find attractive.
So, when you receive your matches several days later, be sure to reach out and connect with each other. You just never know where it may lead.