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We haven't talked about dating each other exclusively and I'm reluctant to bring it up. How can I discover whether he wants to have a committed relationship? Jessica
Jessica, Your relationship is likely have a stronger foundation if both of you take a few months to sort out your feelings before dating exclusively. This will give you the opportunity to discover whether you're really compatible with each other. You'll also get a better sense of how you treat each other as you become more comfortable together.
Some couples drift into exclusivity without having a discussion beforehand. However some find that having an assumed commitment precipitates a nagging sense of jealousy or insecurity. If you're like most people in a budding relationship, you will want to know where you stand.
So, if you've been dating for several months and you're not sure where your affair is going, communicate your feelings in a gentle, honest and non-judgmental manner. Plan to be open to any outcome, because you can't know how it's going to turn out before you hear what he may have to say.
Timing is crucial. Plan to initiate your conversation before a natural parting time, such as the end of a meal or activity.
Resist the temptation to bring up the subject while you're engaging in sexually charged behavior. That may make it impossible to have an honest dialogue or could give him the impression that you are being manipulative.
Your conversational attitude must be calm, friendly and matter of fact. Convey that you care for him and simply want information. Make sure you can be laid back and receptive to his response no matter how he replies. Resist any temptation to give him a sales pitch, cry or argue.
Say something like "I really like you. But, I'm at the point where I need to know if this is something that's going to stay casual. I have a wonderful time with you and don't want my emotions to be out of sync with what is really going on."
Then wait and patiently listen to everything he has to say in response, so that you know what he's thinking.
Before you have your talk, think about what your general response would be to any of his likely answers.
If you need to convince him to commit, it means he's not available.
Most single men and women are open to a mutually loving relationship—with the right person. Remember that a premature commitment after only a few dates is as meaningless as no commitment at all.
"I NEED (not just want?) to know...(just curious)?"
Then no more intimacy if it's not the 'right' answer? Hmmm...
Perhaps better to just state position and then ask for his feelings.
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