Pay attention to his actions

If you have to ask if he's your boyfriend...he probably isn't.

Most men express how they feel through their actions. If he wants to be your boyfriend, you'll know, because he'll treat you well. You'll never have to wonder what he's thinking, because he'll be there for you.

A charming conversationalist often woos a woman by painting a romantic verbal picture. He may say that he's never met anyone like you; that you are perfect for him. He might weave romantic fantasies around future plans.

He could say he loves you or wants a future with you. He might talk about moving in order to be closer to you. However, if, after a couple of months of dating, his actions include any of the following behaviors, he's probably not serious about you.

He's not serious about you if...

1. He texts, rather than calls, even when he knows that you prefer to talk on the phone. He doesn't return your calls or texts promptly. If he doesn't want to take a few minutes to talk with you, he's not into you.

2. He travels frequently for business and ignores you until after he returns. Unless he's a in a part of the world without electricity, he can get a web or phone connection. See above.

3. He doesn't ask you to date him exclusively. Until he does, keep your options open and date others.

4. Something doesn't add up: He's not where he said he would be. He has meetings at odd hours, emergencies that don't make sense, or leaves the room when talking on the phone. Rather than blindly trusting, verify if it feels "off."

5. He gets angry or defensive when you talk to him about relationship concern. Unless you are repeatedly bringing up the same thing, a man who loves you will want to solve the problem.

6. He doesn't make plans with you until the last minute. It means you're not his first priority

7. He's often busy on evenings and weekends. If he's not spending some of his free time with you on a regular basis, you're not that important to him.

8. The frequency of contact doesn't increase with the duration of your relationship. As most couples become closer, they spend more time with each other.

9. He doesn't share details about his day and doesn't ask about yours. He's not curious about your life, and expects you to have a hands-off approach about his. Liars often don't share details in order to prevent them from having to remember which story they told.

10. You've never seen his place. He may have something (or someone) to hide.

11. You haven't met friends, family, colleagues. If he's telling you he loves you, yet is not introducing you to those who are important to him, it doesn't fit.

12. His actions don't match his words. For example, he tells you he wants to see more of you, but it never happens. Pay attention to what he does, not to what he says.

If you are looking for a partner, give a potential relationship a few months to develop, then ask yourself: "Is he walking the walk, or is he just talking the talk?"

If you're dating just to have fun, and don't care if it goes anywhere...relax and enjoy!