How long should you date before taking down your profile?

Dear Annie, I met Al online a couple of weeks ago. I can't remember ever experiencing such a profound initital connection.

Part of me wants to discover everything about him as quickly as possible. But, my other side wants to get to know him gradually, so we can discover if we have true potential.

I'm still talking to other guys online. If the time comes when Al and I agree to focus exclusively on each other, I'm happy to take my profile down. In the meantime, I updated my profile and posted a new photo.

Does "taking it slow" mean she's available to date others?

It's not that I want to keep my options open. I just don't want to become invested in a relationship that may not go anywhere.

But I feel guilty. I worry that he might see my profile updates and feel hurt or angry.

Should I stop interacting with other guys and just focus on Al? Cathy

Timing and communication is everything

Cathy, Making your profile inactive within a few weeks of meeting someone sounds premature. And, unless both of you agree to do so, it's also unwise.

There is no way you can know whether your affinity signals a lasting connection and compatibility, or if it's solely about chemistry and attraction.

Give your budding relationship a little time to grow. If you and Al have a strong connection, it's likely that no one else will interest you.