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Dear Annie,
I met a very attractive guy at a singles event. We had a great conversation, and I was thrilled when he asked for my phone number. I thought that we'd really clicked.
Well, it's been a couple of weeks, and he never called. What with the kind of chemistry that we had, I'm really surprised. Maybe he lost my number. Should I try to contact him?
Karen
Annie Replies:
Dear Karen,
It's time to say "next!" and move forward. There are great guys, with whom you can have fabulous conversations with, just around the corner. However, you're not going to see them if your emotions are invested in someone who isn't calling you.
Maybe he lost your number. However, the odds are that once he got home, he simply wasn't moved to call. Men sometimes ask for phone numbers for reasons that many women just don't understand. For example, he may want to end the conversation on an up-note. He could be curious to see if you like him enough to give him your number and take it home to consider calling you - when he's ready. He may be part way in or out of a relationship, and want your number for insurance, just in case it doesn't work out. He might not be ready for a relationship, but just out there testing the waters.
If I could, I would train all guys not to do this. That being impossible, your best bet is to arm yourself. When you give out your number, expect that he may call, and that you won't move forward emotionally until he's called, made plans, and you've actually gone out on a date or 3. You won't know if he's your match for quite a while, so take it slow, and enjoy!
Here's to a great love life! Annie
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