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Dear Annie,
After more than a year of being with this woman, I broke up with her because she was never happy with anything I did. Then, when I told her that I didn't want to see her anymore, she was surprised and upset. As usual, she thought that I should just do things her way, everything would be just fine. She wanted to stay together and "work it out". I'm fed up with working it out, but it seems to be this way with all of the women I meet. As soon as you're a couple, they start telling me what to do. I try to get along, and keep my mouth shut, but it always ends up getting to me. Where should I look for someone who isn't going to be like that?
Bud
Annie Replies
Dear Bud,
Unfortunately, there is no one place where you can find a certain type of woman... but you already knew that. However, there is a way to find out fairly early if a woman is going to be more critical than you can handle.
The very first time that you feel that she's being critical, don't keep your mouth shut. Use tact and humor, but find out what she's really thinking. "What do you mean '......'? - I think....." and laugh. Sometimes, she'll be making a suggestion or having an opinion about something, and wants to know what you think. If she is very invested in having her own way all the time, find out early, and move on to someone who will be more compatible with you.
There is someone out there who will love you for who you are, and only try to tweak you a little bit - or not at all! But if you are spending your time with Ms. Wrong-For-You, Ms. Right will look elsewhere -she's probably not interested in elbowing another woman out of the way. Remember - dating is "test driving", and if either of you doesn't like the performance, it's time to turn in that model and go for someone you can relax and enjoy the ride with.
Best of luck!
Annie
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