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Dear Annie,
I met this wonderful man about a month ago. We had an awesome conversation - our connection was electrical. I honestly haven't felt so in sync with anyone for a so long that I can't remember it... Anyway, as we parted, we exchanged email addresses, and he said that he'd love to get together for a glass of wine sometime.
I emailed him twice, but the invitation never materialized. In the meantime, I ran into him at a couple of related events. We didn't get a chance to talk, as we were both busy working the room. The last time this happened, I approached him as he was getting ready to leave, and he said that he was busy, but that he'd love to talk over a glass of wine sometime.
I emailed him, and asked him to go to a concert with me, but he was busy that evening, although he said he should have some free time in the future. I would absolutely love to get to know him better - the chemistry is unbelievable! What should I do next?
Kim
Annie Replies
Dear Kim,
You have my sympathy. We've all been there. You meet someone, and it feels so right, they say they want to see you again, and then...nothing happens.
The sad truth is that he was very charming. He did a great job of creating chemistry. For some reason, he is not able or willing to follow through with you. He definitely liked talking with you, but for whatever reason, he is not willing or able to pursue more than a very casual friendship with you.
Remember, dating is like tennis. You hit the ball. They hit the ball. Sometimes you serve twice, but never more than that. If someone doesn't hit the ball back, it means they don't want to play. Most men want to be polite, so when they take leave, they may say, "let's get together" or "I'll call you". For many guys, it seems like a harmless thing to say, and they might mean it in the moment, but change their mind later. You only know if they really mean it when they follow through.
In this situation, it's his job to follow through, and your job to move on. If he wants to contact you, he will. In the meantime, you want to be able to open your heart to someone who might be willing and able to pursue a relationship with you. As long as it's being occupied by Mr. Let's Have A Glass of Wine Sometime, you won't be available to Mr. Right.
Best of Luck! Annie
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