Unlike most single women in their 20s and 30s, midlife women have mastered their lives. They have established their lifestyles and their careers, developed long-term friendships, brought up their families and are pretty confident where they fit into the world. They know who they are and what they want in life. But, when they begin dating, they may unexpectedly start feeling like a stranger in a strange land. The incongruity between their feelings of competence in the rest of their life and the confusion they feel around dating can be so disconcerting that they give up all together.

The question that most of them have is – how come I have it all together in the rest of my life, but I haven’t got a clue how to get into a happy, trusting relationship with someone? I can’t even meet anyone remotely appropriate. Women are looking for answers. How do I find a nice man? Are all the “good ones” really married or gay? Where do I go to meet someone where I can feel comfortable? What about online dating? Should I approach him? Should I call him? How can I tell if he’s serious about me? What about sex – is he going to love me and leave me? He doesn’t want to commit – how long should I wait? He wants to commit, but he’s too controlling – should I settle?

We call our girlfriends for answers – each one has a different take on it based on her experience. Often, she hedges – she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, so she may say that he really does like you, but you need to be patient – even though she can sense that’s not the case. Or she’ll give you the three date rule, the don’t call/do call rule. And on and on.

At Get A Love Life, we have done extensive research, and have a great deal of experience speaking honestly with real midlife men. We have the answers that your girlfriends can’t or won’t tell you. We know that the vast majority of men are looking for relationships. We know what puts them off and what draws them in. We also know that the dynamics of midlife dating are different and can teach you how you can create a successful, proactive approach to dating that will bring you the results you desire – while you remain honest and true to yourself.